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21 October 2010 @ 12:38 pm
NAP Trouble  
I'm in over my head. Can anyone help me out? Yesterday she fell asleep in the car coming home from the children's museum which is normal but woke when put into bed which is not normal. She wouldnt' sleep after that. She slept maybe ten minutes in the car. Today I decided to not force the nap issue. I made plans for us to go out during her nap but maybe them flexible enough to change if she fell asleep. She fell asleep before we even got close to our destination. I came home, put her in bed and she starts screaming. I'm trying to let her cry it out but she just keeps screaming louder. I don't see how she can possibly fall asleep this upset. I've let her cry it out before but this is much worse.

Do I just go about our plans even if she falls asleep and pull her out of the car and wake her? Do I change the nap routine somehow? I just don't know what to do. I thought maybe she's done with naps but you should see how tired she was. We drove maybe two miles and she was unconcious. Anyone?
the gothic kittenx_cybergoth_x on October 21st, 2010 07:55 pm (UTC)
Personally... well let's put it this way. My neighbour was in your position. So what she did was let her son nap in the car. She made sure that a window in the car was open, she was at a window in the house where she could see the car at all times, had that open so she could hear her son as well as see him when he woke. It was a completely safe area and he was never out of line of sight and never out of supervision, and he napped happily.

Personally, if it were Patrick (who still naps daily), who was getting tired at that time of day, I would put him up to bed still, but bot expect a sleep, but quiet and rest time, and put a time limit, if he hasn't fallen asleep within x amount of time, get him up and carry on with the day. She may not need a nap daily, but maybe she needs it some days and not others, and needs a slot in her routine to allow her to nap comfortably in bed when she needs it.
Crash Test Mommypopchex on October 22nd, 2010 01:23 am (UTC)
Zach's at that point too - he doesn't want to miss ANYTHING, especially if his big brother is around!

I think with the car it's two things - one, the motion. They can't resist it! And two, she can't go anywhere, and she knows that, so it's "okay" to sleep, because she's not able to do anything else. :)

Days like that? I drive down to the airport viewing spot, hit mcdonald's for a treat, with my 4 year old, and let Z sleep in the car. It's a decent drive (40-ish minutes one way) and then we just sit and watch the planes land and take off.

When my 4 year old was little and had a Bad Day, I'd just keep a book with me and take a drive to somewhere pretty, and sit and read while he slept. :)

Dawnfiredawnfire99 on October 22nd, 2010 03:44 am (UTC)
The car ideas are good, I'd be nervous about leaving her in the car. It is getting cooler here but even still you hear way too many stories around here about babies left in cars dying from the heat. I might use the idea of taking a book somewhere and just sitting there. Hard to get anything else done but at least she isn't cranky for the missed nap.

I know it's just what you said (popchex) she doesn't want to miss anything. She'll rest as long as she's laying on me right now so she knows she isn't missing something. It's what we ended up doing. She didn't quiet sleep but lay with me watching tv for an hour and a half. Her eyes closed a few times but if I coughed or moved at all they popped open.

Thanks both of you for the ideas.
Pretty Oneeternalneophyte on October 22nd, 2010 12:39 pm (UTC)
I actually lay down with Teb in my bed and cuddle him until he falls asleep. Sometimes I sleep with him, but it's usually pretty easy once he's asleep to sneak up, put pillows on each side of him and keep my door open so I can hear him when he wakes up. He sleeps fine at night in his bed, but does NOT want to at naptime. This is a compromise I'm super happy with. Another plus side is he'll sleep much longer if I stay in bed with him, sometimes three hours instead of one.
Dawnfiredawnfire99 on October 24th, 2010 03:51 am (UTC)
She won't lay down on our bed because it's become a play area for her, but we can lay together and watch tv on the couch. Although no luck in me getting up once she's asleep. Guess I'm going to be forced to have a rest/nap time with her for now.
Pretty Oneeternalneophyte on October 24th, 2010 05:38 am (UTC)
On the bright side, it's a great excuse for you to get a chance to recharge your batteries. Watch some TV or have a book close at hand and enjoy your quiet time with a little warm snuggly baby to love on.
 Tessa McCoythemccoys on October 23rd, 2010 06:28 am (UTC)
Letting her cry it out is only making the problem worse. She is obviously communicating to you something is wrong. Just let her sleep in the car, do you have a garage?

Or when you bring her in maybe lay down with her until she falls asleep, or let her watch a cartoon. Amelia will only fall asleep now if we lay her on the couch and let her fall asleep on her own terms with us there.
Dawnfiredawnfire99 on October 24th, 2010 03:50 am (UTC)
We don't have a garage and letting her sleep in the car is kind of dangerous around here. When summer temperatures reach 115+ outside the car it's just so risky to even do it in winter. Although temperatures have been much better lately. Today was only 79 and tomorrow is supposed to be 81 but I still just don't feel okay with that plus we tried having me stay in the car with her sleeping and she woke after about ten minutes anyway.

I think cartoon time on the couch is going to replace her nap but I hate her watching so much tv. She sort of sleeps that way. She'll lay there with me zombie like, and close her eyes off and on, but I cannot leave her.
squisheezsquisheez on October 26th, 2010 01:22 am (UTC)
We respect the nap. I work around the nap. If there is something that needs to get done I do before or after nap time. It can be very difficult, but Tristan is in a great routine,and I don't want to mess with that. Good luck.
Dawnfiredawnfire99 on October 26th, 2010 04:15 am (UTC)
It really isn't about nap time, it's about the fact that she won't nap. Her nap time has always been around about noonish and has worked very well up until now. Today she sort of napped on me, but I couldn't stand lying still for long so it was about a half an hour maybe 45 min. at best nap. She just freaks out when I put her down to sleep even if she's already asleep from a car ride or being held. She's never done this up until just this last week.